In his own words:

The stress of living under DADT is not something I can begin to
describe. Whether you’re straight or gay, there is little that comes
much more naturally than who you are attracted to. Whether you want it
to be true or not, you still know, and you know that there’s no changing
it. Now imagine that everything you know and love could disappear if
anyone found out who you’re attracted to–even if you never acted on it.
Imagine you could be fired and humiliated for it, or even go to jail.
Imagine that all it has to take is a rumor or suspicion, and that an
accusation from anyone could be devastating to your career. How would
you deal with people you work with, who stand next to you in formation?
How would you approach your job knowing that saying the wrong thing to
the wrong person could provoke them to taking their suspicion to your

Here’s Captain Phelps with his date at the Marine Corps Birthday Ball.

Again, in his own words:

I introduced Brandon to
everyone I knew that night, and as we got progressively more comfortable
with the routine (and the drinks finally began to kick in), I started
greeting Marines who I wasn’t as sure would be as comfortable or
supportive. I was surprised by their warmth, and Brandon got some time
to talk with other dates who were making fun of their Marines for all
our pomp, circumstance, and strange (but very typically Marine)
behavior. At one point in the evening, one of the women who works on the
general’s staff approached us specifically to tell us how glad she was
that we could be there together.

Matthew’s blog provides the complete story.

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By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.