National Organization for Marriage (in this case through their Minnesota franchise) is fond of a bit of cognitive dissonance that support for gay marriage means that society is saying that either a mother or a father is not necessary. Just today, an 11 year old girl testifying before a Minnesota legislative committee was coached into saying:

Which parent don’t I need, my mom or my dad?

Actually hon, your parents are guilty of child abuse. You have been coached to ask a rhetorical question that has no reply. It is based on a false assumption. In this case, it would be that one of your parents is expendable.

The kid deserves to have the parents who are raising her.

More testimony came from someone identified as gay man “Doug.” I presume that this is that nutty teabagger, Doug Mainwaring out of Maryland. He married a woman he did not love and had children. Now we all have to pay for his mistakes.

… passing this bill says your wife or husband is not important in the raising of your children!

OK. This is bullshit.

Aside from the fact that half of the children in this country are being raised by a single parent due to a divorce, it is a false choice leading to a false conclusion.

If gays adopt, then they are giving parents to a kid without a mother and without a father.

Perhaps we should have a conversation about the ethics of surrogacy and sperm donation. That conversation would apply to both gay and straight couples as well as would-be single parents. But none of this has anything to do with marriage equality.

When gays marry, it has no effect on heterosexual couples. Most gay couples do not have children. They marry for the same reasons that straight couples marry; Love, commitment and to create a marital estate.

Some gay couples do have children. They want to marry out of love, commitment, creating a marital estate and to create the best environment to raise their kids.

Meanwhile, the straight couples who will probably account for 97% of all marriages are going to crank out the same children. No more, no fewer and with no other differences.

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By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.