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Tomorrow we celebrate ten years of marriage equality in Massachusetts. Maggie Gallagher always insisted that “gay marriage has consequences.” Could she describe all of the adverse consequences of same-sex marriage based on the experience of Massachusetts?

Yesterday I wrote about Dr. Carson Holloway’s piece on Witherspoon Institute’s blog. Holloway is a scholar yet the best he could come up with in a very lengthy diatribe is theory that the marriages of gay couples have some mysterious effect on the children of so-called traditional marriages. No mention of Massachusetts.

Ask Brian Brown, head of National Organization for Marriage, and he’ll probably claim that there has been a loss of religious freedom in Massachusetts. He would probably point to Catholic Charities. Brown’s idea of religious freedom is the right to decide which laws people will, or will not, obey. The ironic thing is that Catholic Charities did comply with the same non-discrimination law before marriage equality. They were placing children with gay couples.

However, once those same gay couples were afforded the financial security of marriage and their situation improved everything changed and they became unworthy as parents. It changed because the Catholic bishops seem to have determined that they would somehow punish Massachusetts by withdrawing adoption services. Call me a cynic but I believe that they also wanted to manufacture a victim so that eventually some schmuck like Brian Brown could claim that he or they are being persecuted.

Our oppressors and critics are religious conservatives. They are seemingly bound not to “bear false witness.” By ignoring Massachusetts aren’t they doing just that? Isn’t deliberate selective observation a form of prevarication? The gay seems to be a more reliable means of extracting funds from the devoted.

In Spain roughly 2% of all marriages are same-sex. I suspect that our experience will eventually be similar to that. Meanwhile almost half of the children in this country are affected by divorce. A staggering 41% of births in this country are out-of-wedlock. Where are the solutions from the same Christians who claim to be so concerned about sin? Gays are 5% of the population but seem to get 85% of their attention. Is this a reaction to our advocacy? I would argue that our advocacy is a reaction to the disproportionate amount of time and energy devoted to gay people.

Christians claim that we should be reoriented. I submit that they need to look at Massachusetts and then reorient their priorities.

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By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.