There is nothing to “take back.” Civil marriage was not the estate of the religious right
to begin with. Gay couples (some with children) will continue to marry
and not much will change — except for those gay couples and their

People start to believe their own bullshit. The abstruse
arguments against marriage equality circumvented the truth that the
folks making those arguments were opposed to same-sex marriage because
of a religious objection. People tied themselves in knots and tortured
logic to divine a secular argument opposing marriage equality. One never
seemed to exist. At least not one that was coherent; nor one that was persuasive.

The Catholic Church does not approve of us or our marriages. We get that. However the Church’s approval was never sought nor required. The Church will continue to disapprove of same-sex marriages and the gay people who enter into them. We get it. We don’t expect that to change. Similarly, Evangelical Protestants do not approve of gay people or their marriages. That, too, is unlikely to change. We will cope. We don’t need their permission.

Marriage equality is done. It will never be undone. People can express their outrage; they can rail against the Supreme Court and it won’t change a thing. Not now and not in the foreseeable future.

Comparisons to Roe v. Wade are preposterous. And the last time I checked, Roe
was still the law of the land. What? You think that Frank Pavone or a
branch of Operation Rescue will appear on the sidewalks screaming “don’t
marry that man?” Seriously?

“Gay marriage” – a derisive term that I learned to adopt (sort of like “Obamacare”) – no longer exists. It’s all just “marriage.”

By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.