Brian S. Brown
One of Brian S. Brown’s goofier images. A maniac wearing a NOM tiara

Thursday, Brian S. Brown of National Organization for Marriage sent out a fundraising email titled: “Not married at all.” Brown begins by bragging about NOM lobbying Georgia legislators to approve a bill that would allow taxpayer funded adoption agencies to discriminate against gay couples. The extent and effectiveness of NOM’s activities in Georgia remain  unknown. NOM does not have a reputation for great competence. Brown proclaims (amid frequent donation links):

Same-sex ‘marriages’ are not marriages at all. 

Brian Brown is not the arbiter of what is, and what is not, a legal marriage. Brown’s declaration is made as a Defender of the One True Faith™. The One True Faith doesn’t have a say either. We are not in the 16th century when even kings were subservient to popes. Brown continues:

The fact of the matter is that marriage is intrinsically the union of one man and one woman. No matter what LGBT extremists, activist judges or the liberal media might say, that is what the institution is about. It’s been that way since the beginning of time, because marriage is ordered toward the procreative act of creating children and then providing the ideal environment for them to thrive with the unique contributions to their wellbeing provided by both a mother and a father.

The above is the definition of marriage according to the (mostly) unmarried eunuchs at the Vatican. It represents the core of the losing argument in Obergefell v. Hodges. “The fact of the matter” is that marriage is defined by federal law, not the catechism of the Catholic Church. Marriages do not require the approval of Brown or the Church. I am not attacking Catholicism. I am attacking the efforts of Brown and the Vatican to impose their religion on public policy. Brown goes off the hinges of reality:

Many in the media foolishly dismiss the idea that we can restore traditional marriage to our laws. They figure that since the US Supreme Court did the unthinkable with their illegitimate, anti-constitutional ruling in the Obergefell case, that gay marriage is a done deal. But people who think through the issues more deeply realize that this situation is not permanently ensconced in our laws, and can be changed. [Give, give, give]

Really? There are not enough states to ratify a constitutional amendment. That means that a new case would have to make its way through the Supreme Court which also means that the request for money to reverse marriage equality is dishonest given that NOM would have nothing to do with the litigation.

For a new case to make its way to the Supreme Court, someone would have to have “standing.” They would have to be able to demonstrate that they have been injured by same-sex marriage. It has to be a real injury, not prospective and not hypothetical. Someone is going to have to make a case why marriage equality should be reversed. The opprobrium of the Roman Catholic Church is irrelevant to the matter. Then a majority of Supreme Court justices would have to disregard the doctrine of stare decisis, a respect for precedence. As judges become more conservative, they become more committed to honoring precedence.

Now if Brian S. Brown has some theory about about how anyone has been actually injured by marriage equality he hasn’t shared it with us. In spite of his endless moaning, kids raised by gay parents are doing just fine and same-sex parenting is disconnected from same-sex marriage. It is also a theoretical injury which does not lead to standing.

The Roman Catholic Church can define marriage as the union of two penguins for all I care. It only affects what the Church will recognize as a marriage. It has no effect on civil marriage. Brian S. Brown is merely a frustrated and judgmental pimp who does not respect the fact that many other religions welcome same-sex marriage as the commitment to spouse and their children that it is. Brown doesn’t understand why everyone doesn’t appreciate the truth of Church dogma.

Yet Brown lies every day to raise money for his failed organization and then presumes to lecture us about morality. That behavior is more sinister than just being hypocritical. It is sociopathic.

The email in question is based on a lie: Give money to NOM and NOM will upend Obergefell v. Hodges. Even were the Supreme Court to reverse itself, NOM would play no part. Where does someone get the nerve to tell that whopper and then loudly disapprove of a minority group based upon sexual orientation? Gay people harm no one due to their sexual orientation. Lying, on the other hand, harms others.

Brian S. Brown is doing real harm to his donors who will never get what he promises. Then he seeks to do real harm to a minority group that he has never made any attempt to understand. He could not care less about the lives of gay people. His solution, according to the Church, is chastity.

Nor does Brown really care about kids being raised by gay people. His solution, again according to the Church, is to give those kids up for adoption. They should not be raised by homosexuals in the first place. Did I mention sociopathy? Mr. Brown is also not a very nice person. Conforming to the dogma of one religious flavor does not make one a moral person. Nor is it normal behavior. It is extremism.

The disapproval of same-sex marriage is based upon the disapproval of gay people. That disapproval is largely based upon ancient chronicles. Faith is one thing. When you think that your faith should define public policy you become a superstition fool.

I note that Brian S. Brown has not taken (false) credit for the reintroduction of the First Amendment Defense Act. Perhaps that is because it recognizes the legitimacy of same-sex marriage (while, at the same time, inviting discrimination). The truth is that same-sex marriage is a constitutional right. What is true and what is false is a factual matter. In conformity with the teachings of the Church, Brown posits that only opposite sex marriages are true marriages. That is a delusion and he is asking people to give money to an organization led by a delusional person on a futile mission.

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By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.