I am loathe to ban someone from the comments section. I prefer not to because I because I value opposing points of view. I value opposing points of view because I have learned the most from people with whom I disagree. Nevertheless, I am close to terminating the access of some commenters.

Everyone is welcome here.

What I ask for is good judgment. Please keep in mind that every LGBTQ person has suffered, in some way, from discrimination and prejudice. Counterpoint in comments ordinarily comes from people who are defending a religious perspective and that’s fine. I can be very hard on religion at times.

However, there is the temptation to make a false equivalence. With very few exceptions, people have not been denied job opportunities, housing or service in public accommodations because of their religion. LGBTQ people face these challenges every day.

Adding injury to the discrimination, in defense of their prejudices we are subjected to very offensive language. It’s always our fault that some idiot had to refuse service. Sometimes our sexuality is depicted as a bad habit or a poor “lifestyle” choice. Quite often we are portrayed as a threat to children. Trans kids are repeatedly told that they are “confused.”

People of faith might be the objects of bigotry. However, that disdain is not projected through direct discrimination.

Another reason for civility (treating people as human beings) is that doing so offers information as opposed to rhetoric. Austin Ruse wrote a very interesting piece which begins with his recounting an experience commenting here. As a  religious conservative, his perspective is quite different from mine but the point he is trying to make is culturally neutral.

So please, everyone — and I mean everyone — vigorous debate is a very good thing. Just keep it civil.

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By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.