Lynn Meagher has rejected her two transgender children because of religious beliefs
Christian mother, Lynn Meagher, has rejected her two transgender children | via YouTube 2020

“Lynn Meagher needs to have a moment of introspective clarity. The risk for her is admitting that she is not omniscient. I suspect that that moment will never occur.”

Monday brings a new transphobic essay from Lynn Meagher, mother to two transgender adults.

Lynn Meagher wants everyone to know how miserable she was on Mother’s Day because she has two transgender children. How about the two trans adults who no longer have a mom? They do not have a mother because Ms. Meagher has rejected them due to a religious fetish.

But everything is always all about her.

I first became aware of Lynn Meagher in 2019. Two years ago a headline at the Christian Post proclaimed: ‘I’ve lost two kids to the trans cult, I want them back’: An anguished mom shares her journey. “I, I, I, Me, Me, Me.”

That exercise in stupidity begins:

In December, a therapist told a tormented Lynn Meagher that she should practice self-care, have a support network, and go to the emergency room if she wanted to kill herself.

The counselor then proceeded to make her feel guilty for supposedly being a judgmental person and essentially blamed her for her woes.

“Transgender advocacy is based on two things:

  1. “Making people aware of the evidence-based medical science and;
  2. “convincing people that the medical science is the most authoritative information that we have.”

Meagher went on to whine about the $160 she supposedly wasted. It was wasted because Meagher is a dogmatist. In her world objective truth does not exist. Dogmatists are never wrong. When evidence or qualified opinion is at odds with the dogma then it or they must be in error.

Lynn Meagher hasn’t gotten any smarter over the last two years.

In fact Ms. Meagher is more invested in her version of reality. Monday’s essay is titled: A Mother’s Day card for the forgotten mothers enduring the painful results of gender ideology. The subtitle reads:

Mother’s Day is difficult, to say the least, for those of us who have been functionally eliminated from the role of mother, oftentimes against our will.

As I said: “I, I, I, Me, Me, Me.”

Once people like Meagher cite “gender ideology,” they are usually too far gone to reason with. They have become immune to logic, evidence and the expertise of others. Confirmation bias takes over which makes these folks susceptible to just about anything posted on the Internet regardless of the qualifications of the author.

Meagher remains a biological mother. She chose a course of behavior that has alienated her offspring and severed their family relationships. She chose to ignore medical science. She chose to ignore her own therapist. She chose to be a noisy anti-transgender crackpot crusader. Nothing is ever Lynn Meagher’s fault.

Furthermore, given the absence of alternatives in the treatment of gender dysphoria, being transgender is not a choice. In contrast, irrational transphobia is chosen behavior.

Lynn Meagher poses a danger to trans youth.

Anti-trans bigots like Ryan T. Anderson, Tony Perkins or Brian S. Brown are are viewed by the faithful as less authoritative than the mother of transgender children. Meagher can be more persuasive than the average warrior for Christ.

A mountain of evidence exists. Children who are supported in their trans identities do very well. The American Academy of Pediatrics has based its clinical practice standards on the gender-affirming care model. The alternative is having an unhappy kid who is prone to self-harm.

Most people prefer to have cisgender, heterosexual children. Therefore, the testimony of someone like Ms. Meagher has considerably more influence than it deserves.

Transgender advocacy is based on two things:

  1. Making people aware of the evidence-based medical science and;
  2. convincing people that the medical science is the most authoritative information that we have.

People like Lynn Meagher are trying to convince people that the science is wrong. People listen in spite of the fact that Meagher is not qualified to dispute the science.

“Debates over religiosity vs. agnosticism are in the abstract. When healthcare is the issue, the debate is no longer an abstraction. The sides are divided by responsible vs. irresponsible.”

The following paragraph in Meagher’s post makes no sense whatsoever:

To all the moms who are being told they are unsupportive, unkind and unloving for asking questions about gender ideology, who know that their sons are sons, and their daughters are daughters, and are being told this is cruel, I see you. There is nothing more loving than standing for the truth for your child, even when they threaten to walk out of your life for doing it. Because you love your child and don’t want her to be harmed, you are refusing to lie in order to make life easier for yourself. The world applauds parents who proudly put their children on display as part of the new civil rights movement for transgender equality, but you have stubbornly refused to comply, even though family and friends mock and deride you for it. They don’t understand your pain, and they don’t empathize. I see you. I think you are amazingly brave, and I know you love your child.

The above disintegrates when truth is properly defined. The primary characteristic of objective truth is that it is supported by evidence. In medical science evidence consists of the data underpinning research that is published to reputable, peer reviewed academic journals.

When people’s very lives are at stake, how they are treated must conform to objective truth. All else is crackpottery. Ultimately someone like Lynn Meagher is no more qualified than a Roma fortune teller or tarot card “reader.”

Debates over religiosity vs. agnosticism are in the abstract. When healthcare is the issue, the debate is no longer an abstraction. The sides are divided by responsible vs. irresponsible.

When it comes to gender incongruence, people’s lives are at risk. Family unity is a potential casualty of ignorance; something that Ms. Meagher knows all too well.

There is a respectable Christian approach.

Dr. Mark Yarhouse is a very pious Christian. He is also a scholar who specializes in human sexuality. Yarhouse wrote an important book on the subject of gender identity and transgender persons. In his book, Yarhouse navigates the very complex issues regarding gender identity and how that relates to theology.

Yarhouse has an endowed chair at the evangelical Wheaton College. An interesting podcast (with text) on the issue of gender identity is here.

In all of his writings, Yarhouse has a recurring theme: You have to listen to people to fully understand their experience.

I fully agree. For many years I preached that the key attribute of a successful manager is the ability to listen. Some people of faith would say that God gave us one mouth but two ears for a reason.

Lynn Meagher isn’t listening. Confirmation bias is a construct that constantly increases in intensity. The more that a person’s biases are confirmed the less likely they are to listen to opposing views.

People who do not listen cannot learn anything. The result is that Ms. Meagher is profoundly sad on Mother’s Day. Her dogmatic rigidity has prevented her from having a relationship with her kids.

That relationship should take precedence over her disapproval. Lynn Meagher needs to have a moment of introspective clarity. The risk for her is admitting that she is not omniscient. I suspect that that moment will never occur.

By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.