Kristi Lemley
Kristi Lemley is an accomplished irritant – via YouTube

Dr. Kristi Lemley (who has a bullshit PhD) is instructive; or attempts to be. Monday, she provides: How to Walk Alongside Someone Struggling With Same-Sex Attractions Until They Are Transformed.

Lemley devotes her discarded pixels to explaining why the subject of her polemic was gay. It begins. The self-righteous set is devoted to the “underlying cause.” Fix that and the person magically becomes straight or cisgender:

“I was tormented as a child with anxiety and fear,” Char Blair sad [sic]. “Most kids see presents under the Christmas tree and are excited about what they are getting; I just wanted peace.”

It ends:

What opened the path for healing and transformation? A college pastor who loved her right where she was and offered to walk the journey with her.

“The opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality but holiness,” Blair said. “I leaned into the Lord, and He gave me answers.

“Rev.” Char Blair, by the way, is another grifter milking the faithful. Blair claims to be a graduate of William Jessup University which begs the question of why someone who thought she was a lesbian chose a Christian college.

There is no mention of Blair being ex-gay on her website but, perhaps, that is the subject of a couple of videos that I chose not to watch.

Getting back to Ms. Lemley: Gay people exist. We are not “same-sex attracted” when we should be described as gay persons. Conservative Christians indulge in the BS to suggest that homosexuality is like an addiction to alcohol or drugs. We are not addicts. I confess that I am addicted to criticizing sanctimonious blowhards who spread misinformation about sexual minorities.

“The notion that sexual orientation is a choice underpins most of the bigotry that gay people experience.”

Moreover, we do not need “healing.” We are not ill. Furthermore, we are not broken and do not need to be fixed either. Kristi Lemley’s world has two driving forces: Shame and approval. “What opened the path for healing and transformation?” is a means of dispensing shame. The “path” she refers to is the road to obtaining approval.

It is all rather arrogant. It is premised on the notion that Lemley’s approval is worth obtaining. It is not.

“Transformation” refers to praying one’s gay away. It seems that every supposed ex-gay person we become acquainted with has an economic interest in claiming to be ex-gay. Imagine the mountains of money that would come my way if I claimed to have converted to Christianity and that Jesus helped me pray my gay away.

Furthermore, apparently Ms. Blair has conversations with imaginary friends (“I leaned into the Lord, and He gave me answers”). It makes no sense.

Now you may say: “What’s the harm?” The answers are easy to understand:

  1. If one can choose to be straight then being gay is a choice. The notion that sexual orientation is a choice underpins most of the bigotry that gay people experience.
  2. Some of the people who believe this nonsense will have children who are gay. They will then proceed to make those kids miserable. The kids might be sent to some crackpot “therapist” who claims to have perfected the alchemy that turns gay people straight. Kids who are subjected to this pseudoscience are sometimes damaged for life.

Kristi Lemley runs Living in the Light Ministries. In spite of a rather glorious website, it took in less than $50,000 in 2020. The purpose for Living in the Light is to provide a platform to promote Lemley. Lemley probably has books to sell and paid events to organize. Further proof is the fact that the url is kristilemley.com rather than anything organizational.

By David Cary Hart

Retired CEO. Formerly a W.E. Deming-trained quality-management consultant. Now just a cranky Jewish queer. Gay cis. He/Him/His.